All growing up
my friends had many more toys and expensive things than I did, like the ipod nano or a “razor”
cell phone. I always wanted what they had. Even then though, I
always noticed a difference in how those friends treated their friends and
family. They were not respectful and always had to have things their way. Those
were the friends who I never wanted to hang out with outside of school because
they were not fun to play with. They were selfish and rude more often than not.
“As Dr. John Rosemond
counseled: “Give your children regular, daily doses of Vitamin N. This vital
nutrient consists simply of the most character-building two-letter word in the
English language––‘'No’ . . . Unfortunately, many, if not most, of today’s
children suffer from Vitamin N deficiency”
This quote sums
those kids up perfectly. They were very deficient in “vitamin N”. Even in Elementary school I could see the
difference in how they acted. That doesn’t mean I stopped asking for things or didn’t
complain a little when I didn’t get something I wanted. It did however help me
to see the reasoning behind everything my parents did. I saw that it wasn’t just
because they wanted to be mean to me. They wanted me to be the kind of person
that others would enjoy being around.
I love how Dr.
Richard B. Miller says in a healthy family “there is a clear heirarchy between
parents and children.” Our kids can be our friends, but they are first our
children and our responsibility. We are supposed to raise them and teach them
what is right and wrong. We can’t do that if we are just a friend who gives
them whatever they want when they want it.
I am grateful for
my parents not giving me everything I want. It has really helped shape who I
am. I can go without now. I know the difference between what I want and what I
need. It saves me money, time, and energy. I think that is something everyone
should learn before they are out and living in the world without their parents
around. It makes a big difference.
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