Alright down to the good stuff. First of all I just realized that the titled has two meanings (if you are a Mormon then you will know exactly where it is from). Anyway, I realized as I was typing it that family is all about giving time and energy, but that it is also time for us to focus on our family and strengthening them. Which fits perfectly with what we were talking about this week in my family class.
We focused on strengthening our love maps and nurturing our relationships. For those of you who have no idea what a love map is, which is probably most or all of you, I will tell you. Love maps consist of the little things that we know about our spouses. Like which relatives bug them or if you were at a restaurant you would know what kind of dressing your spouse would like or what their favorite drink is. Little things like that. You might be wondering why those things would be important. Gottman tells us that the more we know about our spouse the easier it is to get through the hard times. Even with the little details. Think about it; don't you feel cool when people ask you about your boyfriend/girlfriend and you know exactly what is going on with them? Why do you feel that? Probably because you feel connected to them, almost like they trust you. Am I right?
This last week was fun for me. I love being able to sit down with my husband and getting to know him better. In Gottman's book there were questions to go through to see how strong the reader's love maps are with their significant other. So, Jamie and I sat down and went through some of the questions and it turned out to be a good long conversation about our families, things we didn't even know about ourselves. I loved it. It gave us time to focus on each other and to strengthen our brand new relationship.
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