The In-Laws (FAML)

   This week for our reading we talked about financial things and the in-laws. Lets be honest here, many of us know what we are supposed to be doing when it comes to money (the trick is applying what we know) so I will focus more on the in-laws.
     Did you know that it is proper for the girl to ask her soon-to-be in-laws permission to marry their son? I had no clue, and I probably wouldn't have been brave enough to actually do that when it came down to it. Its moments like this when I am so grateful I am a girl.
   The most part of what I remember from the reading was about cleaving to our spouses and not to our parents. There is a verse in the bible that says "Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother and shall cleave unto his wife." A lot of times there are problems in marriages because the wife and her mother have too close of a relationship. Its ok to be close to our parents but we wives need to make sure that we are not giving our moms every detail of our married lives. It seems small and harmless, but Its actually really interesting what kind of damage that can do to a marriage.
    A friend once told me, and I think I have told you this before, "keep your marriage in your marriage." She said, there will be times when he bugs you. You get over it because you love him. When you tell your mom or dad the things that are wrong with him and how it bugs you, they won't forget it. The sad thing is that I can definitely see this being true. My friends have come to me and told me things about their boyfriend or husband and I have a lot harder of a time trying to let it go and see this guy the same way. We want our parents to see our spouse in a good light always.
     The other important thing to remember is that when we do talk to our parents or ask for advice, they are not the first people we should turn to. We are supposed to talk things out with our spouse and try to figure things out that way. If together that still doesn't work, then if you both feel ok about it you can talk to the parents and get their input.
    I think the main purpose of this reading was to teach us to love our parents still but to make sure that we are turning to our spouse first in all things.