Corsage: My Family System

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           My family is like a beautiful corsage. Each piece is necessary to make things work and each piece is very close to the next. The different pieces are all intertwined together in some way supporting each other. Not one piece is less valuable than the other.

            My dad is the thickest part of the corsage: the stems. He is the support of the family and the part of the corsage that keeps things straight and standing tall. He is always making sure that we are doing what we are supposed to and He is the breadwinner of the family supporting our lifestyle.

            My mom is the floral tape that holds everyone together. When we are arguing she is the mediator who comes in and ends things and makes sure we fix things. The tape also gives the corsage a finished look. My mom makes sure that we present ourselves well and if people are coming over that we have a clean home with the spirit for our guests and family to be in.

            I am the blue ribbon on this corsage. I am one of the bigger pieces that people see first. I am the oldest and the one that people look to be a good example to my siblings and to help my parents keep things in order.

            Mikayla is my twin; she is the biggest flower on the corsage. She and I compliment each other with our different colors and our contrasting features. People also look to her to be a little calmer than me. She brings a different type of beauty to the family. She is more elegant and people see her as the peacemaker.

            Jeffrey is the bigger leaves that quietly accent the bright colors of the other flowers. People don’t notice him until they look closer. He usually quietly soaks in what is going on around him and when necessary puts in his input.

            Taylor is other the tiny green accent plants. Sometimes she is forgotten because she is the middle child, however when she is missing things just aren’t right. She is the one who gets along the best with every child and compliments each piece perfectly.

            Olivia is the stem on the tiny orange flowers. She supports our youngest sister Emma who is represented by the orange flowers themselves. She plays with and is closest to Emma. She is teaching her how to grow up in this world and how to bloom where she is planted.            

            Emma is the bright bubbly child who has constant energy and wants to do everything. Everyone loves her bright personality as she sets a great example for her peers. Because she is the youngest, she gets a lot of the attention a home from the parents. These orange flowers are one of the more noticeable parts of the corsage because of the color and the placement of them.

            The orange flowers and the blue ribbon depending on their shades can at times clash with each other. This brings the least desirable effects on the family. When the ribbon and small flowers clash, it causes trouble in the whole family. Some agree with the flowers and others agree with the ribbon. Emma and I get along for the most part but at times we can disagree to say the least. She is very much a little me. She wants to be bright and noticed yet sometimes overlooked because she is the youngest.  Noticing this is going to help me try to get along better with her to keep the colors complimenting each other instead of clashing. If her shades change, I will change mine to compliment hers.

 Other than that the pieces work together very well and all compliment our different colors and personalities. We bring out the best in each other and try to add to what others lack, like the leaves and greens add a calming color to the brighter ones to bring things down to a more pleasing look.

            The tape and the stems also work very well together. My parents are constantly relying on each other to make the home a happier place. Without the tape none of the stems would stay together and without the stems, the tape would have nothing to hold together or the flowers would be falling out everywhere and not getting everything they can out of life by having both parents around.

            The ribbon and the biggest flower: Mikayla and me would not work as well without each other. The flower could work on her own, but the ribbon would be nothing without the flowers. Alone each is pretty but they work together to beautify each other and make each other stronger.

            This example has a couple of little aspects that don’t necessarily fit. Taylor who is the small accent plants is more noticed than these plants. There are times when she will say something and nobody will hear her and then someone else will repeat what she said and everyone will pay attention to that child, but she is the favorite sister of everyone. She gets along with each one and is willing to help everyone out.

            The other one that doesn’t quite fit are the leaves that represent Jeffrey. He is more noticed in our family and outside as well. He is the only boy so when people ask about our family they ask about how he is doing and if he is preparing for a mission or if he likes being the only boy.

            I hope to keep things pretty much the same. I want to always make sure I am adding to everyone and not taking away from the rest of the beauty of the corsage. Our different little pieces work very well with each other.

    This week in class I realized how much effort and work one has to put into a relationship to make it work. Before and after. There are so many vital question that need to be asked before agreeing to court or marry someone. Then once the relationship starts it isn't always love notes and roses. There are going to be rough times and the couple will need to learn how to solve these problems together.
 Once a kid arrives it makes it even harder. There are so many little things that I didn't even think of to do/talk about that could be damaging the father/child relationship if not taken care of. Along with that the father/mother relationship needs to be kept strong while they are learning to balance their new lives with this new addition.